"A problem shared is a problem halved." That's the claim, but I don't think it is a general rule, because not everyone is a problem-solver. Sometimes a problem shared is a problem worsened.
However, if it will make you feel better, be my guest and talk about it, but really, talking about your problems when you can be initiative is an all wrong, for half the people you'll talk to may not give a rat's behind, or they may even be happy that you're in deep shit.
There's a Wolof saying that not every supposed willingness to help you put down the load on your head is out of sincere desire to help. Sometimes the helper just wants to see what is in the thing that you're carrying.
"Jappal ma enni la, du sawar la enni, laygo layg buga xam la nga enu la."
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