Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
To err is human.
But not when you write "your" in place of "you're."
No, scratch that!
Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
If there's a chapter in your past that you'll never read aloud.
Don't get on nerves.
It's a small world.
And people talk.
Sunday 31 July 2016
Will....
How you make your bed is how you'll have to lie in it. So before acting all pious and holding God to account for everything, check if your condition is in fact not a consequence of the decisions you made in the past. And don't twist my point. I know it is an article of our faith to believe in fate, predestination, and of God having foreknowledge of our destiny. But before we blame everything on Him, let us not forget that He gave us free will to choose our actions, and to regulate them with reason.
Once I was told I couldn't be shortlisted for a job I thought I had the competence to handle, because I only have a high school diploma, and ours is a degree-diseased society. But I will be ungrateful to place that blame on God, because the decision to stop at high school and to become an autoditact was entirely mine. God only respected and permitted my decision. So His is an ultimate control over the outcome, and not necessarily the director of the cause.
We need to understand the difference between God's "Directive Will" (ndogal) and "Permissive Will" (anda). Like, when it comes to the natural world and the events in the physical universe (force of gravity, rain, etc.) God "directs" those. But as for our actions and inactions, and the consequences thereof, He only "permits." This is why He didn't stop at saying "believe," but "believe and do good works." So logically, it is safe to say that what you do today will more than likely be the agent by which your future is shaped. I hope I am making sense?
Once I was told I couldn't be shortlisted for a job I thought I had the competence to handle, because I only have a high school diploma, and ours is a degree-diseased society. But I will be ungrateful to place that blame on God, because the decision to stop at high school and to become an autoditact was entirely mine. God only respected and permitted my decision. So His is an ultimate control over the outcome, and not necessarily the director of the cause.
We need to understand the difference between God's "Directive Will" (ndogal) and "Permissive Will" (anda). Like, when it comes to the natural world and the events in the physical universe (force of gravity, rain, etc.) God "directs" those. But as for our actions and inactions, and the consequences thereof, He only "permits." This is why He didn't stop at saying "believe," but "believe and do good works." So logically, it is safe to say that what you do today will more than likely be the agent by which your future is shaped. I hope I am making sense?
Saturday 30 July 2016
Communication...
These Senegalese elders are so articulate. I like it when they say something (in Wolof) that they know is so profound, and they're like: "daygo ma deh?" - like: "ya heard?"
That's what's up. You don't have to be abounding in big words to sound intellectually deep. You'll end up using more words than necessary, and mostly say so little with so much vocabulary. Efficient communicators don't do that; they say so much in so little... See Obama.
That's what's up. You don't have to be abounding in big words to sound intellectually deep. You'll end up using more words than necessary, and mostly say so little with so much vocabulary. Efficient communicators don't do that; they say so much in so little... See Obama.
Friday 29 July 2016
Competence...
When the actor or doer becomes good at, skilled, fluent, or practiced, the job will seem easy to the onlooker. So, if you're going to pitch into it thinking it is a child's play, without attention to the competence of the one doing it, make sure you save a lot of nerves for the consequences.
Where I come from, it is believed that he who is capable of doing something about something but does nothing about it will increase the rate of failure. But also responsible for making matters worse is the one who is not competent yet refuses to renounce his role.
Where I come from, it is believed that he who is capable of doing something about something but does nothing about it will increase the rate of failure. But also responsible for making matters worse is the one who is not competent yet refuses to renounce his role.
The relativism of jealousy...
Deny it all you want, but I think it's natural to feel a bit jealous when you see someone doing something, or with something you could've had if not for a certain misguided decision you made in the past. But be careful how you desire; the feeling should be an incentive to do better. 'Olof Njie neh: buggay, su tahay nga xarr sa dayna, nyaw ko dina la jaahal.' (If greed causes you to cleave your chest, you will be sorry when you need to sew it up again).
Too much jealousy, especially one without reason will lead to hatred, and that's unfortunately the case round here. We tend to forget about our own blessings the moment we see someone else shining in his chosen area. But why the hell should the moon be jealous of the stars? Can't you be admiring of someone else's and still value what you own?
When you see a competent doctor doing his thing, you will wish you had opted for the medical profession. You take your ride to the mechanic, and in a few moments the car is fixed with an accompanying bill equivalent to your salary, you just want to be an artisan yourself. When you have the privilege of the company of a decorated serviceman, you just want to serve. So the prestige is not in what you do, but how prestigious you make it; just display dexterity and rest assured that glory will come naturally.
Olof Njie neh buggay du mutt, ngorr mutt (you cannot be too desirous and too honest), and that's what this decadent world is doing to people. It promotes glory hunting and profitability over intelligent conduct, creating people who hate a thing only when it isn't theirs, or when they can't have it; people who think everyone else is so easy to make a fool of, and so anyone can go about trying to gain at everyone else's expense, and seeking to be owed a great debt of gratitude after that. How cute!
Too much jealousy, especially one without reason will lead to hatred, and that's unfortunately the case round here. We tend to forget about our own blessings the moment we see someone else shining in his chosen area. But why the hell should the moon be jealous of the stars? Can't you be admiring of someone else's and still value what you own?
When you see a competent doctor doing his thing, you will wish you had opted for the medical profession. You take your ride to the mechanic, and in a few moments the car is fixed with an accompanying bill equivalent to your salary, you just want to be an artisan yourself. When you have the privilege of the company of a decorated serviceman, you just want to serve. So the prestige is not in what you do, but how prestigious you make it; just display dexterity and rest assured that glory will come naturally.
Olof Njie neh buggay du mutt, ngorr mutt (you cannot be too desirous and too honest), and that's what this decadent world is doing to people. It promotes glory hunting and profitability over intelligent conduct, creating people who hate a thing only when it isn't theirs, or when they can't have it; people who think everyone else is so easy to make a fool of, and so anyone can go about trying to gain at everyone else's expense, and seeking to be owed a great debt of gratitude after that. How cute!
When you treat folks right...
Round here, when you're nice to the average person - like, when you feel for him and treat him right, he'll treat you back like an idiot. In fact, to him you're but a fool [toye], and the next thing is: "haral ma dem nax (dorg) suma toye bi" [let me go and cajole (wring) my cut out of my idiot]." As if you're not helping at your own will.
Act like you're his master and he'll gladly be your servant, because he loves it when obedience and servitude is imposed on him. In fact, being so bossy towards him makes him call you his "toubab." Not "toubab" as in white man, but as someone characterised by valour and good management. He'll value this "toubab's" 50 Dalasis more than yours that is ten times more. So, the "toubab" label is apparently a badge of honour.
Yet he'll secretly grumble when this "toubab" eventually arrogates what's his; how foolish? Tell you this: no matter how much you love doing it, acting as if you're only useful in an inferior capacity is self demeaning, and not even the 13th Amendment can restore the loss of pride therefrom, because it only abolished involuntary servitude, not what you accept, do, or give on your own free will.
Act like you're his master and he'll gladly be your servant, because he loves it when obedience and servitude is imposed on him. In fact, being so bossy towards him makes him call you his "toubab." Not "toubab" as in white man, but as someone characterised by valour and good management. He'll value this "toubab's" 50 Dalasis more than yours that is ten times more. So, the "toubab" label is apparently a badge of honour.
Yet he'll secretly grumble when this "toubab" eventually arrogates what's his; how foolish? Tell you this: no matter how much you love doing it, acting as if you're only useful in an inferior capacity is self demeaning, and not even the 13th Amendment can restore the loss of pride therefrom, because it only abolished involuntary servitude, not what you accept, do, or give on your own free will.
Tuesday 26 July 2016
Goodwill... so easy, so valuable...
You don't have to come from Samaria to be a Good Samaritan, or to be able to inspire others to be. In fact, cultivating goodwill doesn't cost more than just the will to identify with people and causes that transcend selfish ends.
It's amazing how much a community can get done if those that folks look to show interest in what's being done. Sometimes, money is not all what is required. Just say: "yo, people, this is ours man, I'm in," and see how motivated the community will be, especially if you're a star.
It's amazing how much a community can get done if those that folks look to show interest in what's being done. Sometimes, money is not all what is required. Just say: "yo, people, this is ours man, I'm in," and see how motivated the community will be, especially if you're a star.
Home...
"Star yow for deka?" (Where do you live star?). Wellingara! "Wow! Yow sorri nga di." (Oh boy, you live so far). And I'll be like: far from where, because that's relative? And according to me, what's important is not where you live, but how you live where you live.
'Olof Njie neh keur bukki kheshew na, wye fa la bukki dekka.' (To you, the home of the hyena may stink, but that's where it lives and where it finds love and happiness).
In fact, you may live "close" to heaven knows where, but are you honestly living? It's a small community, so we know. Your place's imposing buildings are bricks and mortar, home is a feeling. That's why when we go abroad we feel nostalgic. Me? I have seen places, dined in the cosiest of eateries, frequented the kinkiest of adult clubs, but none of those feels like home.
'Olof Njie neh keur bukki kheshew na, wye fa la bukki dekka.' (To you, the home of the hyena may stink, but that's where it lives and where it finds love and happiness).
In fact, you may live "close" to heaven knows where, but are you honestly living? It's a small community, so we know. Your place's imposing buildings are bricks and mortar, home is a feeling. That's why when we go abroad we feel nostalgic. Me? I have seen places, dined in the cosiest of eateries, frequented the kinkiest of adult clubs, but none of those feels like home.
Sunday 24 July 2016
True friends share....
Listen! If despite his knowledge of it, you're still lacking something your friend has in abundance, go and find yourself a new friend; one who finds satisfaction in sharing with you, because this your friend is as good as the Merchant of Venice. Genuine friends don't bask in the glare of the things they know their homies can't have.
Here unfortunately, most friends are happy that they're the primary earner in the crew. When they can't, they won't unlock their joy in the blessings of the others. But that's why we all end up poor, because none can be/have/do it all. Me? I want all my friends to be well off, so when we go out, everyone's keen that the bill is on him; that's what I call success.
Here unfortunately, most friends are happy that they're the primary earner in the crew. When they can't, they won't unlock their joy in the blessings of the others. But that's why we all end up poor, because none can be/have/do it all. Me? I want all my friends to be well off, so when we go out, everyone's keen that the bill is on him; that's what I call success.
Saturday 23 July 2016
Why you won't go far....
As a kid, excessive pride, contempt and disrespect for elders won't get you far, just as you wouldn't go far if you think it is 'yabateh or heybateh' (a mark of dishonour) to need somebody to lean on, because even Aliko Dangote needed his grand father, the late Alhaji Sanusi Dantata.
If you think because you're young, cool and in full reproductive mode, you know better than those who have lived through and seen enough of this complicated world, you need some soul searching kid. Survival is a skill, and experience at it will always prevail over strength; trust me!
'Olof Njie neh lu jinneh magget magget, desseh reygayju bi jommal gunneh.' (No matter how old the jinn is, it will still be able to make a face that will be sufficient to panic a child.
By extension, you wouldn't go far in life if you cannot differentiate between confidence and a disgracefully large ego... and in the name of all things sacred, if you're going to come on social media to comment on what people post, or to attempt to turn their arguments against them, make sure your spelling and grammar aren't as hideous as thanks for ruining my day.
If you think because you're young, cool and in full reproductive mode, you know better than those who have lived through and seen enough of this complicated world, you need some soul searching kid. Survival is a skill, and experience at it will always prevail over strength; trust me!
'Olof Njie neh lu jinneh magget magget, desseh reygayju bi jommal gunneh.' (No matter how old the jinn is, it will still be able to make a face that will be sufficient to panic a child.
By extension, you wouldn't go far in life if you cannot differentiate between confidence and a disgracefully large ego... and in the name of all things sacred, if you're going to come on social media to comment on what people post, or to attempt to turn their arguments against them, make sure your spelling and grammar aren't as hideous as thanks for ruining my day.
Friday 22 July 2016
Attitude matters...
Naturally, those who try to inspire hope or resurrect dreams during trying moments will rarely make sense to those in despair, for the despairer tends to focus too much on the load at hand.
About that, Lena Horne said: "It's not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.” "Carry" I suppose serving as a reference to one's chosen mental attitude and approach.
About that, Lena Horne said: "It's not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.” "Carry" I suppose serving as a reference to one's chosen mental attitude and approach.
Thursday 21 July 2016
Mtcheew!
You see, when you have a choice to do the right thing, but you went all wrong, like really, really wrong, and your gaffe becomes the spice of the moment, even morons are afforded absolution, so long as it is you that they crucify.
So these two also had an opinion on Melania Trump's speech plagiarism episode, and one said to the other:
"I tink her people doesn't proveread what they writes. I was sock when I see the vedio. She is fully imitate Michelle." Then the other idiot said, and with so much class: "They does, just share stupidity."
Like, wow! 'Mooti'ngey toomal ngemba doxot' (a typical case of the pot calling the kettle black). I told you two heads aren't always better than one and this is proof.
So these two also had an opinion on Melania Trump's speech plagiarism episode, and one said to the other:
"I tink her people doesn't proveread what they writes. I was sock when I see the vedio. She is fully imitate Michelle." Then the other idiot said, and with so much class: "They does, just share stupidity."
Like, wow! 'Mooti'ngey toomal ngemba doxot' (a typical case of the pot calling the kettle black). I told you two heads aren't always better than one and this is proof.
About emotions...
When heartbroken, some people are at a loss for words, but that doesn’t make it unnatural to want to give vent to yours, even though sometimes you may not know who to talk to, because the more overwhelming it gets, the narrower your circle of trust, and the more you see everyone around you as either selfish or unreliable, and some very so.
However, diverted is the focus of the one who takes his emotions out on just anyone, for he may end up absolving the one deserving his ire to lay blame on the wrong party; an equal victim perhaps. So, if you are the kind who cannot hoard it, steel yourself and give vent to it, but do not blind yourself with it, because the aftermath can be embarrassing.
However, diverted is the focus of the one who takes his emotions out on just anyone, for he may end up absolving the one deserving his ire to lay blame on the wrong party; an equal victim perhaps. So, if you are the kind who cannot hoard it, steel yourself and give vent to it, but do not blind yourself with it, because the aftermath can be embarrassing.
Monday 18 July 2016
Resist the pressure when it's negative...
If you refuse to succumb to the temptations of peer pressure today, and you keep doing the good that they find uncool, or will probably mock you for, come tomorrow, destiny's God's but I can safely say that you will more than likely do things, amazing things that they would so love to do but wouldn't be able to do. If they do not come asking if you're hiring that is.
Do you remember Alvin Johnson in "love don't cost a thing," and how he ditched his nerdy friends for the cooler ballers? Remember how he got busted? But is a second chance like his guaranteed? Will your old friends be there for you as his were? Imagine how messed up he was gonna end up. So, focus, knowing that being you is in fact cooler than pretending to be what you're not built for. Being there, done that, mine is to give advice, I cannot give conduct.
Do you remember Alvin Johnson in "love don't cost a thing," and how he ditched his nerdy friends for the cooler ballers? Remember how he got busted? But is a second chance like his guaranteed? Will your old friends be there for you as his were? Imagine how messed up he was gonna end up. So, focus, knowing that being you is in fact cooler than pretending to be what you're not built for. Being there, done that, mine is to give advice, I cannot give conduct.
Sunday 17 July 2016
It's deceptive age...
In today's climate of propaganda and deception, anyone can pick up a fight, create enemies and play victim about it. Like powerful governments are accused of creating wars to justify their defense budgets, and to make the military-industrial complex stronger by buying bombs and dropping them on innocent people.
For my part, I am not gonna stop dealing with anyone just because someone considers the person an enemy. If I know you're inventing a fight just for the heck of it, make sure you're ready to finish it, alone.... and some people are fond of doing that. They will for insane reasons take out their frustrations on innocent people, and when they get what they deserve, they expect their friends to naively join them in the fight. Don't fall for such collateral enmity, it's bullshit.
For my part, I am not gonna stop dealing with anyone just because someone considers the person an enemy. If I know you're inventing a fight just for the heck of it, make sure you're ready to finish it, alone.... and some people are fond of doing that. They will for insane reasons take out their frustrations on innocent people, and when they get what they deserve, they expect their friends to naively join them in the fight. Don't fall for such collateral enmity, it's bullshit.
Nonsense is always nonsense...
How it used to be done cannot necessarily be the standard by which a fair or right action is measured. So just because a certain nonsense used to exist or is agelong doesn't mean it should be caused to persist.
Nonsense is nonsense; it doesn’t matter how popular or time-honoured it is. If you're doing it, you're just doing what you want, but it is still nonsense anyway. "Lee yaganafi" (this has been here since time in memorial) is no justification for continuation.
Nonsense is nonsense; it doesn’t matter how popular or time-honoured it is. If you're doing it, you're just doing what you want, but it is still nonsense anyway. "Lee yaganafi" (this has been here since time in memorial) is no justification for continuation.
Saturday 16 July 2016
If you're not done, don't act like it...
When you say you're breaking up, ending a relationship, or cutting free from whatever bond it is, ranting endlessly about the would-be ex is proof that you're not yet ready to move on.
If you ask me, and in the name of sanity, take your word back, or just do it and get over it. You know you still care if you're going to go into the future feeling so betrayed, worried and curious about the past.
But this is if you're the one ending the bond, and it's just an opinion. If you're the victim, it's a whole different thing. You wouldn't know the feeling unless you feel it. Bobu afferi xol la daal. Yalna len si yallah mussal.
If you ask me, and in the name of sanity, take your word back, or just do it and get over it. You know you still care if you're going to go into the future feeling so betrayed, worried and curious about the past.
But this is if you're the one ending the bond, and it's just an opinion. If you're the victim, it's a whole different thing. You wouldn't know the feeling unless you feel it. Bobu afferi xol la daal. Yalna len si yallah mussal.
Sometimes it's a state of mind....
When people are affluent, especially by their own efforts and with God's permission of course, they see obstacles, delays, and disadvantages as fated setbacks, while looking forward to major combacks. Even when they're in a condition of bankruptcy and unable to pay certain bills, they'll either blame it on bad investment or timing of cash flow. That's how faithful they are.
Most poor people here tend to lose faith. So they'll blame theirs on inexistent enemies and evil spirits. They'll borrow money and spend it on obeah, and on jujus and amulets resembling my Chinese friend 'Ug Lee.' You know, finding magical solutions to perceived problems that require a very simple process of reasoning.
Like it couldn't be that their condition was because of a decision they made, or a certain gainful opportunity they ignored, because I find it stupid that someone will try to pull down someone who's never been up. According to acronymfinder.com, POOR stands for: Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly, and that's some food for thought right there.
Some who jealously desire the excellence or good fortune of others will try to justify their state of bad luck by clinging to the notion that many a wealthy in this life will have nothing to gain in the hereafter. I say bullshit! With that kind of faithless mentality, some people will do better than you and your entire clan in this life and the hereafter, you'll see.
Most poor people here tend to lose faith. So they'll blame theirs on inexistent enemies and evil spirits. They'll borrow money and spend it on obeah, and on jujus and amulets resembling my Chinese friend 'Ug Lee.' You know, finding magical solutions to perceived problems that require a very simple process of reasoning.
Like it couldn't be that their condition was because of a decision they made, or a certain gainful opportunity they ignored, because I find it stupid that someone will try to pull down someone who's never been up. According to acronymfinder.com, POOR stands for: Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly, and that's some food for thought right there.
Some who jealously desire the excellence or good fortune of others will try to justify their state of bad luck by clinging to the notion that many a wealthy in this life will have nothing to gain in the hereafter. I say bullshit! With that kind of faithless mentality, some people will do better than you and your entire clan in this life and the hereafter, you'll see.
Friday 15 July 2016
Even I can be someone's hypocrite...
Today, I think the most commonly used word on here is the "hypocrite," and the meaning so watered down to mean anyone with an opinion different from the one who brings the charge of hypocrisy.
So, anyone who takes part in any discussion on here can be called a hypocrite. It is no longer a symbol of shame. I think it has to do with us living our lives as if everyone should think and act the way we do, and that is impossible.
So, anyone who takes part in any discussion on here can be called a hypocrite. It is no longer a symbol of shame. I think it has to do with us living our lives as if everyone should think and act the way we do, and that is impossible.
Attraction...
Unless we have an open mind to the possibilities in the different types of people we meet, some of us who tend to confuse arrogance with wakefulness will throw our luck to the dogs by being so disdainful of the ones we view as unimportant.
If you're going to attract success, you need to be able to attract people, and attracting people is contingent upon how you make them feel. If you value people by their looks, what they drive or wear, you may end up being so impudent towards your boss's boss and you will be sorry.
If you're going to attract success, you need to be able to attract people, and attracting people is contingent upon how you make them feel. If you value people by their looks, what they drive or wear, you may end up being so impudent towards your boss's boss and you will be sorry.
Thursday 14 July 2016
Hear!
Cunningly putting down a colleague just to impress the boss is evil. If a colleague’s worth is being unfairly estimated, or someone is being credited for his output and you know it, not raising objection is evil. Getting in the way of a colleague’s progress simply because you're stuck is evil. If you're doing all these or you know someone doing all these and you choose to be indifferent, you're a bloody termite.
But the evilest of all is the one who comes under the guise of being there for you, pretending to be protecting you from hateful colleagues that are in fact better than him. This person will cause you to breach trust with your good people, only to forsake you the moment there is nothing on the table for him. But it’s his loss still, because like the clouds, he has to disappear from your life for your day to be bright again, and by God it will be bright again.
But the evilest of all is the one who comes under the guise of being there for you, pretending to be protecting you from hateful colleagues that are in fact better than him. This person will cause you to breach trust with your good people, only to forsake you the moment there is nothing on the table for him. But it’s his loss still, because like the clouds, he has to disappear from your life for your day to be bright again, and by God it will be bright again.
Tuesday 12 July 2016
The brush you want to be painted with is yours to create...
Two:
Officer Tommy Norman here builds relationships within the communities he works, and is today making headlines for all the good reasons. He is one "white cop" who believes in "encouraging others to go out and make a difference in their corner of the world." - look him up.
The celebrated Williams sisters were raised in Campton - "the hood." But who said "hood" cannot go against the odds, the scrutiny and the prejudice to become number one in the world? I am sure theirs wasn't without fears, frustrations, and occasional tears, but did they slacken or find excuses?
So the "cause" is not about listening or not listening to country music. It's not about calling everything on TV a "commercial shit" just to stay "hood" or "legit." It's about becoming what you were thought you wouldn't be, and not stopping until the doubter is baptised.
Officer Tommy Norman here builds relationships within the communities he works, and is today making headlines for all the good reasons. He is one "white cop" who believes in "encouraging others to go out and make a difference in their corner of the world." - look him up.
The celebrated Williams sisters were raised in Campton - "the hood." But who said "hood" cannot go against the odds, the scrutiny and the prejudice to become number one in the world? I am sure theirs wasn't without fears, frustrations, and occasional tears, but did they slacken or find excuses?
So the "cause" is not about listening or not listening to country music. It's not about calling everything on TV a "commercial shit" just to stay "hood" or "legit." It's about becoming what you were thought you wouldn't be, and not stopping until the doubter is baptised.
Monday 11 July 2016
He's not owned, he's being nice...
Because a guy respects his lady so much doesn't mean he is owned, or perhaps scared of her. What if he is being grateful for what she went through with him? If it bothers you that a couple is happy the way they are, you might want to consider lightening up a bit.
Me? I find it so graceless that a guy this age can be so domineering like: "FATOUMATTA, E'FANAG NAA NYING PALATO BONDI N'NYAATO WYE, AH!"
Me? I find it so graceless that a guy this age can be so domineering like: "FATOUMATTA, E'FANAG NAA NYING PALATO BONDI N'NYAATO WYE, AH!"
He's not owned, he's being nice...
Because a guy respects his lady so much doesn't mean he is owned, or perhaps scared of her. What if he is being grateful for what she went through with him? If it bothers you that a couple is happy the way they are, you might want to consider lightening up a bit.
Me? I find it so graceless that a guy this age can be so domineering like: "FATOUMATTA, E'FANAG NAA NYING PALATO BONDI N'NYAATO WYE, AH!"
Me? I find it so graceless that a guy this age can be so domineering like: "FATOUMATTA, E'FANAG NAA NYING PALATO BONDI N'NYAATO WYE, AH!"
Sunday 10 July 2016
Don't join two wrongs....
Summer that any young female can go out dressed like she's going to her ex's wedding, and guys eager to meet and fall for anyone and anything dressed like that, society should be careful which two they join together in holy Matrimony. Two wrongs don't make a right, and marriage is no summer fling.
If desirable values aren't uniformly possessed, there's still no harm in joining the negatives with the positives, provided the positive integers are strong enough to influence the negatives for the better. But then check the supposed positives clean; not all who pretend to have multiple morals are really so.
If desirable values aren't uniformly possessed, there's still no harm in joining the negatives with the positives, provided the positive integers are strong enough to influence the negatives for the better. But then check the supposed positives clean; not all who pretend to have multiple morals are really so.
Saturday 9 July 2016
Remember this....
When someone who used to extend good wishes, or someone who used to support, or express sympathy to you and your hustle becomes your rival overnight, remember this:
Some people will want to see you do good, but depending upon the condition that you'll not do better than them; that's what second party success does to some people. Strange thing!
Some people will want to see you do good, but depending upon the condition that you'll not do better than them; that's what second party success does to some people. Strange thing!
Unity in diversity...
Imagine a world where everyone is of a uniform make-up; the same colour, the same height, the same looks, the same physique, the same accent, and the same everything.
How long will it take you to develop an expertise in recognising the other, or the good guy from the criminal, if there's no trait that makes us differ in variability? Wouldn't that be very dangerous and boring?
Doesn't it make sense why God after creating us from the same Adam and Eve, and subsequently Noah's progeny, made us nations of diverse people and tribes? Can you see the bright side?
How long will it take you to develop an expertise in recognising the other, or the good guy from the criminal, if there's no trait that makes us differ in variability? Wouldn't that be very dangerous and boring?
Doesn't it make sense why God after creating us from the same Adam and Eve, and subsequently Noah's progeny, made us nations of diverse people and tribes? Can you see the bright side?
Friday 8 July 2016
Phobia, the root of today's evils...
Money might have been the root of all kinds of evil, but today, "phobia" is, and sometimes the needless phobia-mongering therein. When people are obsessively fearful, they will do anything; the good, the bad and the desperate, just to keep safe, and to defend, guard or prevent harm from coming to them and theirs.
So, you see how the consequences of fear can be reckless as well as overly reckful? Let me rephrase that - fear doesn't always make a man weak, it can make a man fight a dreaded beast bare hands, even at the cost of his own life. In fact, it happened in Kenya in '07. This guy killed an attacking lion just like that, even though he later got killed by hyenas.
In my opinion, all of today's irrational distrust of others, the use of amulets and jujus to protect oneself against enemies that do not exist, and people causing others to become alarmed without cause are all products of fear and perhaps faithlessness. So, we do away with it and its mongering, humankind will more than likely live cordially ever after.
So, you see how the consequences of fear can be reckless as well as overly reckful? Let me rephrase that - fear doesn't always make a man weak, it can make a man fight a dreaded beast bare hands, even at the cost of his own life. In fact, it happened in Kenya in '07. This guy killed an attacking lion just like that, even though he later got killed by hyenas.
In my opinion, all of today's irrational distrust of others, the use of amulets and jujus to protect oneself against enemies that do not exist, and people causing others to become alarmed without cause are all products of fear and perhaps faithlessness. So, we do away with it and its mongering, humankind will more than likely live cordially ever after.
Anger - the cause and the effect of it.....
The consequence of anger is usually more grievous than the cause of the anger. But that doesn't make the act or the agent that incited the anger any less grievous. If you ask me, just don't piss people off, no matter the strength of your support structure.
Me - I have a temper, and I can confirm that when people are pissed off, they just want to do something about it. Their reactions are usually not so wise, because it's the heart at play not the mind. They wouldn't care how right their target, timing, degree or purpose is, they just want to do something about it.
Me - I have a temper, and I can confirm that when people are pissed off, they just want to do something about it. Their reactions are usually not so wise, because it's the heart at play not the mind. They wouldn't care how right their target, timing, degree or purpose is, they just want to do something about it.
Player dilemma..
Being a serial dater, a charmer, or a player can be an awesome experience - methinks, I cannot confirm. But I know it can be very dilemmatic someday - when you have to wife up. Lord help you if you should find them all so nice and wifely - you know, that agonising moment of finally proceeding with the decision to appoint one and disappoint the rest.
But you can do like that bank messenger who anytime he scores a favour from one of his bosses, he'll promise the person a namesake - if his pregnant wife happens to be delivered of their baby that is.
The child came and it was a boy. On the day of naming, the Imam asked who the child was gonna be named after. Looking in the faces of his promisees, who all came loaded with gifts to celebrate their namesake, dude froze, and the Imam was like: "my friend, tell us something now!" Pointing to the pool of aspiring namesakes he said to the Imam: "tuday nako gaayi" (I have named him after them).
But you can do like that bank messenger who anytime he scores a favour from one of his bosses, he'll promise the person a namesake - if his pregnant wife happens to be delivered of their baby that is.
The child came and it was a boy. On the day of naming, the Imam asked who the child was gonna be named after. Looking in the faces of his promisees, who all came loaded with gifts to celebrate their namesake, dude froze, and the Imam was like: "my friend, tell us something now!" Pointing to the pool of aspiring namesakes he said to the Imam: "tuday nako gaayi" (I have named him after them).
Wednesday 6 July 2016
The "baal ma akh, baal nala" cliché...
I think it's a good thing that we forgive without concerning ourselves with details. Sometimes I wonder if every "baal ma akh" will get a "baal nala" should the one seeking be asked to come clean first, like:
YOU: "yo, what do I forgive you for. You have never wronged me?"
SEEKER: "you remember when you got busted for so and so - or that incident that cost you nangam?"
YOU: "yeah, that was messed up man. My life got srewed over and I doubt it'll ever be the same again. Perhaps someday I'll be afforded solace and closure in knowing and getting even with the idiot that did that to me."
SEEKER: "sorry mate, I was the rat that told on you. But just forgive me man. What I did and said about you and yours is so much and too painful to list."
Don't mind my silly thoughts, I know y'all will forgive, still. I trust your sense of forgiveness.
YOU: "yo, what do I forgive you for. You have never wronged me?"
SEEKER: "you remember when you got busted for so and so - or that incident that cost you nangam?"
YOU: "yeah, that was messed up man. My life got srewed over and I doubt it'll ever be the same again. Perhaps someday I'll be afforded solace and closure in knowing and getting even with the idiot that did that to me."
SEEKER: "sorry mate, I was the rat that told on you. But just forgive me man. What I did and said about you and yours is so much and too painful to list."
Don't mind my silly thoughts, I know y'all will forgive, still. I trust your sense of forgiveness.
My observation...
When the average Gambian supports you, your business or cause, enjoy every bit of it while it lasts. Did you see what they did to Sultan when MacCeasars came... and now Reo's?
No wonder traffic gets sick in some areas during feasts, because shopping and nightlife destinations considered "happening places" are always unanimous.
Patronage round here is as shifty as some relationship statuses. One moment someone's "In a Relationship," next minute "Single," then "Complicated," then to an ambiguous hashtag: "#HisQueen" - like, yeah right, you wish!
No wonder traffic gets sick in some areas during feasts, because shopping and nightlife destinations considered "happening places" are always unanimous.
Patronage round here is as shifty as some relationship statuses. One moment someone's "In a Relationship," next minute "Single," then "Complicated," then to an ambiguous hashtag: "#HisQueen" - like, yeah right, you wish!
Daywenaati...!
Blessed Eid ul-Fitr to you all. May God give comfort to the brokenhearted, be it as a result of loss of a beloved person, a thing or a relationship. May He heal the sick, give means to the destitute, rescue the oppressed, hearten the hopeless, have mercy on the departed souls, boost our faith in Him and make us fulfillers of His Will. May all those nutcases in denial that are hellbent on dooming our world with violence and corruption not succeed. Amen!
Tuesday 5 July 2016
Friendship...
If friendship was meant to be restricted to the one you know the longest, your mom would've been your one and only friend. So, even though your childhood friends are indispensable, growth and success will require y'all to raise your standards from time to time. Not necessarily ditching each other or burning bridges, but accommodating new connections, colleagues and business associates.
So, just because your friend is hardly together with you today, and just because your daily conversations are not as frequent doesn't mean he's become haughty. It is a mark of friendship to accept the fact that the more you grow, the more your relationships will cease to be business as usual. So be willing to raise your standards and don't expect others to lower theirs in the name of loyalty.
So, just because your friend is hardly together with you today, and just because your daily conversations are not as frequent doesn't mean he's become haughty. It is a mark of friendship to accept the fact that the more you grow, the more your relationships will cease to be business as usual. So be willing to raise your standards and don't expect others to lower theirs in the name of loyalty.
Monday 4 July 2016
Ramadan....
So, the Prophet and his Companions used to be heartbroken that Ramadan is ending? Well, unlike the way that story is translated in some circles, I don't think it is the hunger and thirst that they used to grieve over; none can ever be friends with those two. In my opinion, their sadness was due to the stoppage of the extra reward that Ramadan gives as premium for endurance.
The analogy that comes to mind is like the contrast between shopping on a normal day and during the sales period that involves heavy price reductions. We tend to look forward to the latter not because we love the inconvenience of the commotion therein, but because it affords us the opportunity to buy more of what we need for less.
So, unlike the aspiring martyrs on here, I am not gonna sit here acting all garaw that Ramadan is easy, because if I had it my way, the moon would've been sighted already. Olof Njie neh ken du tuday hiff dorm. All the same, I am grateful for the gift of life to witness and observe this year's Ramadan, and I pray that God will accept all our good deeds and help us carry the newfound spirit into the other eleven months.
The analogy that comes to mind is like the contrast between shopping on a normal day and during the sales period that involves heavy price reductions. We tend to look forward to the latter not because we love the inconvenience of the commotion therein, but because it affords us the opportunity to buy more of what we need for less.
So, unlike the aspiring martyrs on here, I am not gonna sit here acting all garaw that Ramadan is easy, because if I had it my way, the moon would've been sighted already. Olof Njie neh ken du tuday hiff dorm. All the same, I am grateful for the gift of life to witness and observe this year's Ramadan, and I pray that God will accept all our good deeds and help us carry the newfound spirit into the other eleven months.
Sunday 3 July 2016
Representation....
Representation matters - that's why I choose the Jordans, but of course I am like Mike. LOL
OASN, if you must identify someone to speak, deal, trade, rep or argue on your behalf, never settle for one that will roll the dice with your future, you will be sorry.
OASN, if you must identify someone to speak, deal, trade, rep or argue on your behalf, never settle for one that will roll the dice with your future, you will be sorry.
Dissent....
Today, even more contemptible to us than adultery and slander is dissent - as in withholding assent to someone else's opinion, her behaviour, his accepted lifestyle, their established beliefs, values, etc.
It is perhaps the reason why today's friendships are like stock markets. One minute a friend's value rises, falls a minute later depending on how responsive he is to our wants, or to what we wish to hear, not necessarily what we need.
If you ask me, not everyone has to like your decision. So just keep it real and do what you feel is right. Those whose sense of willingness can see beyond their egos will appreciate your honesty - regardless.
It is perhaps the reason why today's friendships are like stock markets. One minute a friend's value rises, falls a minute later depending on how responsive he is to our wants, or to what we wish to hear, not necessarily what we need.
If you ask me, not everyone has to like your decision. So just keep it real and do what you feel is right. Those whose sense of willingness can see beyond their egos will appreciate your honesty - regardless.
Saturday 2 July 2016
Name-dropping....
Some people just want to be an essential part of society, and they will, by God and the baraka of Ramadan. Others want to appear to be cooler than they truly are, but by pretending to be more connected than everyone around them. So they tend to resort to name-dropping and snobbery until you're like: Jeh, nmbading tenkung!
Hello! You can only be cool by being really, really cool; not by using every conversation to imply association or link with some famous person or trending event. My boy Spoonhead does that all the time. He will drop a certain relative's name to act cool like cool runs in the family. Sometimes you wonder how many of his uncles, aunties and cousins aren't fitting examples for every great topic we discuss.
Hello! You can only be cool by being really, really cool; not by using every conversation to imply association or link with some famous person or trending event. My boy Spoonhead does that all the time. He will drop a certain relative's name to act cool like cool runs in the family. Sometimes you wonder how many of his uncles, aunties and cousins aren't fitting examples for every great topic we discuss.
Shared success...
From Rosa Parks' Montgomery Bus Boycott of 1950-something, to the Duke of Edinburgh going behind the wheel to drive the Obamas into Windsor Castle.
You see how shared success is not unlike a sprint relay. Like Ma'am Parks and her contemporaries, there must be a starting runner, a baton or hope if you like, and an outstretched hand into which the baton or hope will be thrusted.
Next up on the challenge is for the next runner to ensure an unbroken sequence of events. By that I mean Michelle should someday consider running for president.
You see how shared success is not unlike a sprint relay. Like Ma'am Parks and her contemporaries, there must be a starting runner, a baton or hope if you like, and an outstretched hand into which the baton or hope will be thrusted.
Next up on the challenge is for the next runner to ensure an unbroken sequence of events. By that I mean Michelle should someday consider running for president.
Friday 1 July 2016
It's never too late...
Have you ever heard someone way younger than you reciting verses beyond the Falaq and Nas that you seem to be stuck at, or seen some other guy religiously performing all his prayers at the prescribed time and place, and you feel somewhat guilty that you could've been him?
I say don't despair... you're not alone. In fact, see your feeling of guilt as a sign of faith and be inspired. Don't you ever be too ashamed or feel too old to attempt to emulate him in effort. Guidance is God's, and it sometimes takes a process.
If you ask me, the act or deed that best expresses your devotion to God is not necessarily the one that appears to be so demanding to handle, but the one that is done with sincerity; one that is free from sham and hypocrisy, methinks!
I say don't despair... you're not alone. In fact, see your feeling of guilt as a sign of faith and be inspired. Don't you ever be too ashamed or feel too old to attempt to emulate him in effort. Guidance is God's, and it sometimes takes a process.
If you ask me, the act or deed that best expresses your devotion to God is not necessarily the one that appears to be so demanding to handle, but the one that is done with sincerity; one that is free from sham and hypocrisy, methinks!
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