Privately drawing a friend's attention to a mistake in the performance of a certain action, or to an embarrassing error, especially one about to be made in public is not like you're passing judgment, it's friendlike; we owe it to each other.
Today unfortunately, the word judgemental has become so clichéd and that's scary. I am afraid that in the end, mutual sincerity will be defeated to the ruin of many, because any sincere advice you give that is not to the pleasing of the advisee will be tantamount to bigotry.
If a friend wears an 'ugh-mazing' attire with an unnoticed defect for instance, drawing her attention to the fail before it becomes a viral malfunction is a moral duty, but concluding that she did it on purpose, or saying she has no personality is what's judgemental... you know, those smugly moralistic remarks - I hate those!
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