'Naseehah'

When somebody strays or sins, rather than exposing or seeking to injure the person's reputation and dignity, ours is to give advice, and to cover up for him, in a manner compatible with law that is. Muslims call it "Naseehah."

But since this is not usually the case, airing your dirty laundry not only in public, but even in confidence to someone who keeps record of your wrongs can be very dangerous.

Like, why the hell is he keeping track? Does he care, or is he adding more to cart - to be used against you someday? Do you know the magnitude of the speed and venom of his mouth? What if y'all cease to be on friendly terms; can you keep his demons of vengeance cowed? Do you have the time for drama like that? If you can't tell, don't tell him.