Moral Decay!

Before civility slapped us in the face, our part of the world used to be one place where even the word ‘sex’ was unmentionable. Sadly, [d]evolution came and swept away that singular identity; our minds got opened YES, but the hearts became bleak. The bracket of tolerability made wider and morals more or less gone astray; HOLY LORD!!! Now we don’t only go on about that ‘S’ word, we employ it against one another.

Social media blazed a trail for folks who find it okay to treat ‘former-friends’ and ex-lovers as evil creatures who must be ruined at all costs; to turn relationships into ‘relation-shits’. Friends, spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends developed into imminent enemies; each one holding onto the other person’s top secret, patiently waiting to let it slip as soon as what they've is no longer beneficial.

See, my mom [God bless her wise soul] once told me, that being a gentleman or lady is not about “swag” or “chic”, it is one who’s well-mannered and considerate, one who has a high standard of proper behaviour; one whose good manners include the preservation of good relations, even with ‘EXs’. It may be easier said than done, but it is doable. These rare breed of incredible human beings are not “losers”; they’re endowed with a gift of ‘fortitude to accept’.

They realise that nothing is permanent; not even the title of a ‘Permanent Secretary’, and that when a relationship is over, there is nothing left to fight over, but in view of the fact that the two involved have had a history of great experiences, cherishing some of those moments, outgrowing pettiness and pushing aside emotions is the best thing to do. They appreciate the fact that even if intimacy is expired, the good values of a once beautiful companionship shouldn't.

Granted, feeling betrayed is a clumsy thing to contend with, especially by someone you called a best friend, someone you had put your time to, someone you used to listen to; BUT LISTEN, do you want the person to grace you with a faithless presence, or would you rather let go and maintain the peace?

What are you trying to achieve by sullying and smearing the image of the individual? Can’t you consider those moments that made that person feel comfortable to trust you with what you’re now exposing? Why are you taking joy in revealing someone’s dirty laundry on social media? Why do you want to defame, discredit or bring shame on a reputation that you’ll never be able to rebuild? Aren't you in some way showing the world the type of backstabber, blackmailer, gossipmonger and betrayer you can be to everyone else?

I thought I should say this!