Misplaced Priorities!

I need to say this; and I am not trying to be antisocial or something, but just take a moment and think about it. I am sure y’all have seen someone holding someone in the wrong, simply because one of them couldn’t grace the other one's ceremony with his/her presence; I am saying “his/her”, because I have seen men do it these days

If you ask me, I think it is so insensible to haul someone over the coals, or stop talking to someone simply because you had an event and that person couldn’t be in attendance; especially when you could more sensibly take the substance of his/her excuse into consideration. At times the apologies are legit.

Sometimes the timing and spontaneous nature of festivities may not be to everyone’s advantage; or maybe an invitee was so broke that he/she couldn’t afford the ‘semi-obligatory’ gifts or the requisite ‘Ashobi’; or possibly your ceremonies have become so many and so ‘lucrative’ that someone’s now gotten so pissed; anything’s possible.

**BUT to tell the truth, you cannot throw more than ‘twenty-ten’ ceremonies in one season and expect everyone to make your day on all of them, ‘Lorlu Du Dem!’

You see, I know all these because where I live, every slight event is cause for festivity; folks will distribute candy as token of invitation to some toddler’s “Baffday” or ‘Kindergarten Graduation’; or they’ll do a ‘Taki-Gorr’ and then an elaborate ‘Taka’; ‘Muur’, ’Jaybal’, ‘Endoo-Sait’, ‘Yorbu-Wolis’, ’Ndey-Ndikeh’, ‘Samba-Sohor’, ‘Tana-Mbirr’, ‘Nyambo’ then ‘Ngenteh’; ‘Nuyou Bayi Compin’, ‘Sayti Yayi Tuur’, ‘Ngomarr’, ‘Yekal-Gorro’, ‘Waache-Kamil’, ‘Premier-Njekeh’, ‘Ziar Demkati Mecca’, ‘Terangal-Oujajj’ and the ‘Oujajj’ will be forced to give some ‘Yorbal’ that he/she didn’t cater for…. and so forth, and so on!

Now who has the stamina for all these in ONE season? LOOK! Is not like you’re being rebellious or rude, if you have a genuine apology for not attending someone’s event, just try and make up for it, and that is if you can; but if the person is rigidly like: “Yow Bahulor, Lutah Nyowulo Suma Porogaram Bi?” Tell him/her to leave you in peace; you can only go to a “Porogaram” when you’re able to; nobody’s obsession should constitute an urgent situation on you.