Striving for success is a fight...

Striving for success is a fight, sometimes fair, sometimes seemingly unfair, but even the unfairness is for a reason. You only get to realise that reason when you achieve the goal, that’s the time all the breakdowns you had along the way will start to make sense. That’s the time you’re able to connect the dots and with a sigh of fulfilment you’ll say: “now I see! If so-and-so hadn't happened, this wouldn't have happened.”

And since it’s a fight for what or who you want to become, it will naturally become a fight against that doubtful bit of your mind, a fight against that inadequacy in your heart, and a fight against that inkling that puts a damper on everything you want to fire up. The fight will also require that you disregard all those negative people who’ll make you want to take a trip of no return to hopeless city.  Don’t allow it! They’re either doing it out of sore desire to be you or out of bitterness in seeing you doing yours.

Sometimes you may grapple, seize the hindrance until there’s nothing between you and success and then one silly mistake causes your disgrace. Other times you’re held down until you’re about to concede defeat, then things change in your favour. Seeing someone else knocked out of his or her fight can put you in a state of despair and that’s natural, but it’s no justification to throw in the towel, because you’re different, you only need to learn from that person’s mistake and better your own fight.

Grabbling is an essential fighting tactic but not always applicable, especially when fighting a mob of haters. You need to be able to use everything you got, from kicking, knocking, biting, to kuntaba'ing and even mbej'ing. At times doing it alone and for solo success can be a hopeless case, especially when the adversary is not unlike 2.13m, 193kg Big Show - sometimes you need a team.

PS – sometimes when I write stuff like this, I will be like: “dega dega mann ma wanneh” - so if I knew all these, then why...err, but never mind. I have seen fortune-tellers who cannot tell their own fortune.