Try to please yourself first, everyone else is secondary!

Omar was a genuinely nice person, but his niceness got taken advantage of. So he decided to become a badass, but then again he became hated. He kept forcing himself to please everyone, but regardless of what he does, there is always a displeased person. In the end it felt like the more he wanted to satisfy people, the more his genuineness weakens. He became spineless, repressed his own needs, opinions and desires against his will, just to go well with everyone.

It became an awkward feeling, and so depressing. He cannot even freely give vent to his frustration about things and people without hesitation. In the end he got sick of the role-play, so he said to himself “you know what, to hell with this, I can’t keep being a people pleaser.”

He borrowed some guts, and decided to change direction from ‘Vulnerable Avenue’, through ‘Hope Street’ going towards ‘Confidence Boulevard’, and just at the ‘Personality Roundabout’ he chanced upon his boy ‘Esteem’. He asked where he was going and ‘Esteem’ said to ‘Liberty Drive’ – He said “let’s ride bro, that’s my destination too.” Apparently both of them were going to find their long lost buddy ‘Free-will’.

From ‘Liberty Drive’ he sent an email to his former friend “Desperate", and it was as follows: “Hi Des! I have never seen a place as nice and uplifting as ‘Liberty Drive’- so many genuinely cool and open-minded people, good life, no restraint at all. Here, I can act, speak and think as I want – Oh boy! ‘Ndekeh Kudul Tukki Du Xam Fu Deka Nayhay’ - now I know I can’t please everyone, but isn't that feeling just wonderful...ttyl...LOL” – Email concludes.

Omar is right. Sometimes you have to be willing to take a trip in order to be aware of the comfort that exists elsewhere.  Apparently, that change of direction made him a changed man. It rehabilitated him into this sweet lanky weirdo that he is today. He became too wonderful for words, no longer stereotypical and not responsive to small-minded judgements. That’s it! You must ultimately be there for yourself, because no one else will.