Holier-than-thou!

Just because you’re self-sainted doesn't give you the right to talk down to others as if they’re too irresponsible or stupid to overstand, and just because others do not seem to fit into your classification of piety doesn’t mean their life is a hell-bound journey and must be disrespected.

Talking to people about spiritual awareness is a good thing, but doing it without good judgment is insensitivity, and of course trying to be sensitive to the point of rubbing down the truth is also insincerity. So you need to have a sense of balance.

This is not a research finding, I just want to believe that the attitude of moral superiority of some of our preachers is the reason why da’is from overseas, by Allah’s Will are able to do better in giving nonbelievers the urge, awareness and nerve to become believers, and mostly because their sermons encourage rather than cause despair.

Here, even correctable blemishes are treated as if apostasy is what’s being committed. Folks keep passing judgement when they’re supposed to be thankful that they were born into Islam by default.

For my part, I am used to hearing snaps like: “Nauzubillah - Astaghfirullah - brother you’re off course - you need Dua’a” – but that doesn’t bother me, I believe if my misguided conduct is construed as kafir then the one doing the judging has also committed a sin [takfir], because I know even apostates are afforded respite to repent.

If you ask me, the best thing is to divest ourselves of the holier-than-thou conduct, stop ‘Astaghfirullah-ing’ everything and be tactful and considerate in our dealings with one another. That way, we could get the change we want without resorting to superciliousness. Tact is admirable– someone said it “is the ability to step on a man's toes without messing up the shine on his shoes.”