Someone who doesn't give consent to everything you say may still be a friend, just as the one who validates everything you do may not necessarily be a friend. True friendship is founded on openness and sincerity.
You cannot call someone a hater simply because he spoke to you in a manner that seems slightly blunt, or maybe he has an opinion that disagrees with yours. Overstand that any agreement that interferes with honesty is actually criticism.
Respect the person who out of respect holds open a door for you, gives up a seat for you, allows you to go ahead in a long queue or upholds simple courtesies like thanks, please, excuse me, etc.
Do not take these polite gestures and remarks to mean 'ragal', 'nyaka faida' or 'buga attention', and not all who sometimes fail to observe these courtesies are 'nyaka xel'. Sometimes people aren't in their perfect mental state - 'hejna sohla ya munon borom'
Finally, there's a thin line between moderate behaviour or a modest person and a doormat. Being a "doormat" is when you willing allow others to wipe their shoes on you or to plod around in your business.
And once you allow it, putting a stop to it may be easier said than done because your conduct is already an indication of concent.
May we be afforded the ability to tell the difference.
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