Marriage

Maybe he is neither unwilling nor unable to do it. Maybe it is not determined by career, healthier income or own house. Maybe there is a Higher Power that controls events. Maybe his desire to do it at a certain projected time is but a fantasy, if it is not in conformity with that Higher Power’s plans for him. Maybe certain things are outside fate. Maybe his efforts aren’t good enough.

Maybe it is normal to hesitate in taking an untried road, not knowing where it may lead to. Maybe the normal thing to do is to make a wild decision without panic about the odds of where the road might lead to. Maybe it’s a whole lot of circumstances conspiring to decelerate the decision. Maybe he’s single but not lonely. Maybe that too is a violation of his vows of chastity. Maybe he’s not too easy to live with. Maybe he’s being made wiser by very hurting experiences.

Maybe the references and the rate of annulments that he’s seen so far are not so encouraging. Maybe folks are right, he should trust his heart and just do it. Maybe they’re only trying to bait him into that distress of a sickly union that is sometimes better separate than together. Maybe he’s right in not lusting for it simply because everyone is doing it. Maybe she’s not telling him but she’s tired of waiting. Maybe she knows it’s only a matter of time before she says “I Do”, and he hopes she does

Maybe thinking the way he is thinking and trying to coordinate his life in order of priority is impious. Maybe he should just take the plunge no matter how deep, and what he sees is what he gets. Maybe he should hold on, perhaps Napoleon Bonaparte is right, maybe "ability is nothing without opportunity." Maybe he has both, but his patience so far is indeed the most practical thing to do. Maybe that’s just wishful thinking.

Maybe he wants to be very married and not just married out of curiosity, trendiness or the excitement of a wedding that typically lasts only a day, or three these days. This institution should last a lifetime and so should be a serious business. Maybe these hypotheses are but a load of crap!

Conceivably, I think Morgan Heritage has the most fitting explanation - hear this: “It's a feeling no man can deny and it's a moment no money can buy, because when it comes it comes, that's when the playing is done, and a woman's victory is won - that's when he feels no shame crying in pain – when he realizes that games don't bring gain - that's when he's ready to be faithful”