TRUST!

Listen, this is official...sort of! If you’re in the habit of sharing your woes and particularly relational difficulties with everyone, especially with those ‘If-It-Were-Me’ kinda people, it’s about damn time you put a stop to it. Some of these people are good at acting as if they like you, and can keenly be involved in everything that involves you, but believe me, it’s either out of nosiness or for very mean and ulterior motives. Just because they gave a listening ear doesn’t mean they’re incapable of causing your downfall - beware!

Remember this Wolof proverb: “JAPPAL, MA ENNI LA”, DU SAWAR’LA ENNI, WYE BUGA XAM LO ENU’ – Meaning: not everyone that offers his service to help you with what you’re carrying on your head is really a caring type, some are only motivated to see what’s in the thing that you’re carrying.

But if you really need to talk about it, to give vent to your emotions for instance, know what and how much of it to say, when to say it, and to whom. Otherwise, I’ll suggest that you have an honest talk with your significant other and try to fill up the crack, knowing that you wouldn't ordinarily tangle ropes with someone that you do not share the same well with.

Keep in mind that when envious people are without what you have, they should be regarded with suspicion, because they tend to have this feeling of being left in their hopeless conditions, and so they’ll do anything to pick up, even if it means pulling you down to their level.  If you ask me, before you talk to them about anything, check them clean and make sure their hands are unsoiled. Civilisation is getting fucked-up and people are becoming so ‘WAHALA-possessed’.

The people that pretend to have your back are mostly the same people that will betray your trust, talk trash about you and let total strangers in on your business.  If you think I am lying, just get into shit and go to them for suggestions, they’ll draw you into very outrageous acts of cheekiness, so that you’ll eventually get into deeper shits, and in the end, instead of helping you out, they’ll poke fun at you, laugh at the mess that they got you into, or even remind you of how you never thought your cosy situation will come to this, apparently happy that you no longer have what you used to have.

I am not trying to encourage pessimism here; I just don’t want you to get hurt when it is avertable. ‘OLOF NJIE NEH NJORT LU NYAW DINA FARAL DI WATTU BOROM’ – Meaning distrust, pessimism or taking into account the negative aspects of a situation can be helpful in rescuing one from unconstructive effects - Blessed!