The hymen is not the enemy...

Look, your wedding ritual is your wedding ritual. I don’t care if you require proof of virginity prior to marriage, and how I feel about the violation of the right of the woman to her privacy and dignity thereof is another topic, but I just want to say that chastity before marriage being beyond reproach doesn’t mean the woman will make a faithful wife. I have seen bad girls become good wives, just as good girls gone terrible, and being free from the latter is a lot more difficult.

Sometimes we fail to understand that the hymen, found torn or in one piece can only lead to assumptions. Especially now that there are discoveries that can help restore vaginal elasticity without surgery. Doing this piece, I Google’d and found out that the “Hymen Shop” sells artificial hymen for only $29.95.

But even if we succeed in having credible evidence that a certain lady had dropped her pants for at least all the men of the Republic of China, and succeed in bringing dishonour to her family, would it mean she cannot make a great wife? Why is it so hard for us to accept the fact that people can change after learning their lessons? Weren’t we told that the Kaaba​that is today the centre of Islam's most sacred place was surrounded by 360 idols?

I don’t know about y’all, but me, my rule is simple. I am not, and I don’t intend to be a virginity enforcement officer. What I do in the bedroom will remain in confidence. In fact, I pray to God for enough dough before marriage, so I can just check out of your cultural pornography, go somewhere peaceful and honey my moon.