Gibson is right!

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.” - William Gibson

I agree that sometimes you're not the problem. The problem is with those lying, selfish, abusive, poisonous, unappreciative, manipulative, success-hating, sadness-inducing, maliciously-grudging idiots and naysayers that you naively let into your life. 

Ouch! I know that's harsh, and I don't even know if your circle has such, but it's worth a check. Most 21st century bonds aren't so bond-worthy. But that's probably why the pronunciation is not unlike 'the twenty fuss century'.