Hate

If you just can't afford top quality things right now, ‘Ya Xam’ designer clothes, smartphone’s or fashionable gadgets, don’t DESPAIR, and don’t HATE by calling the one buying them 'wasteful'; be thankful for your R50; your ROLEX and GUCCI duplicates; overstand that your current state is not a guaranteed permanence

When someone can afford it and buys 2, 3 or 4 of an analogous accessory (Dallar, Belta, Nyarrah, Handbags, etc.), not just for them to gather dust in their house, but to interchange them or to fulfill the total look of any outfit they dress in; do not say it is a waste of money or ask what they need all that for.

We have a big weakness for that; it is either “Li Yeup Purr Yow Kenna?” or “Ma Jeul Sa Bu Marget Bi?”... as if it is a taboo to own more than one.

LISTEN! when it comes to necessities, one can never have too many, especially shoes and handbags; ask the ladies

When someone buys something new, just recognise the value, compliment and move on. Do not keep account of how much it costs in order to censure what the person could have done with the good deal of cash (s)he expended.

Isn’t it his or her money that paid for it; his or her desire and acquisition; and wouldn’t you have been up there if you were that much financially prudent?…and finally, family is a unit; so get your mouth out of other people’s family matters.

Before you tag someone’s family as being wicked to someone, be sure that the one you’re advocating help for really wants help. Some families have this strategy of allowing each one to uncover and pursue the best way to help self, for you can only help better the person who has figured out his plight and genuinely wants help.