But what do I know?

If you volunteer vows out of deep lust, or you jump into marriage just for the heck of starting up a new relationship, or for that deceptive courage attached to the practice of having more than one wife, I swear down you will breakup sooner than you makeup, and in consequence of the same reasons you were hooked up for. No ifs, ands, or buts about that.

Wrongdoing is a liability on your balance sheet...

How can you be given a fresh start if you are not willing to take some amount of responsibility for the wrongs you made in the first place? Where is the lesson to learn if exoneration is handed to you just like that? But if someone is willing to make up for the pains he caused you, why would it be so hard to show some kindness? Didn’t they say "to err is human, to forgive divine?"

But why must one be a perpetual perpetrator? What makes them think they can do wrongs and get away? Don’t they know that one day we will all depart this life and convene on the other side for a final trial? What is going to be their defense? Don’t they know that in matters of judgement like in bookkeeping, every debit must have a corresponding credit entry, or would you like to go in there having everything you think you own shown as a liability on your balance sheet?

Those who don't matter, don't matter...

In a society where riches, favours, and expectations dictate what is to be said and what is not to be said about people and their qualities, even dust-bags can become heroes if they are willing to put in a sizeable bid. But tell you what, intelligent people don't care about self-serving okra-mouths, let alone what they think or say about them.

In this life, if you are valued by those who matter, and by that I mean loved ones, don’t be bothered by off-putting remarks of those who do not matter. Free yourself from emotional pain by letting negativity go down quick into hell. Stop giving substance to things of no importance, because the more you make them significant, the more you will be in needless concern.

It took me a while to become conscious of this, but since then, all I can say is Alhamdulillah. I have realised that a lot of folks are such that when you are of no immediate help to them, when you lack interest or refuse to take comfort in their social interactions, you are deemed guilty of something until proven innocent, and I don't have time for false conclusions like that, especially not from people who cannot let others be the way they want to be.

If you ask me, of all the things we need right now, introspection should be priority, of course with the intention of letting go of our desire to hurt others unnecessarily. But in the mean time, tell those rumormongering idiots to go screw their feelings about you.

Your GPA may be something but not everything...

In this world of endless possibilities, school grades and a slavish devotion to everything academic may be a good thing; just not my thing, and you cannot make it everyone’s thing, neither can it dictate tomorrow's everything. So, my best wishes if your dream is to achieve a magna, summa, egregia or even a maxima cum laude, but that doesn't mean you should think little of some of us that may have fallen for that ‘we-don't-give-a-fuck’ type of attitude in school.

The other day I was talking to a friend about a friend we knew way back, and I told him that if real world success was the ultimate result of excellent academic history, then that dude would’ve been everything he isn't. But that means George W. Bush wouldn’t have managed to become the president of the world’s most powerful country.

So just like having a perfect GPA doesn’t guarantee your success in life, seeking to carve your own path in ways that may seem wild cannot be an indicator for failure. In fact, at some point in your life, your GPA will be as good as irrelevant, because no one will ask what yours was. Or will you dare ask Eminem about his grades to validate the bars he spit?

Recognise where recognition is due...

Even if you think you are in a thing for a greater good, and no matter what it is that you are in, the fact that you are in it as a team requires everything you do to be done in line with the principles of collectivism. It’s only right to render unto others the things which are theirs. That way, unto you the things that are yours shall be rendered.

Failing to acknowledge or give credit where credit is due may not stop others from doing what you think they are doing, but you cannot also stop them from deliberately damaging or obstructing the progress you desire, because come tomorrow, they will want to be able to point you to your failings and say: "Sucker! You got served."

Give a man a fish...

They say give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, in view of the fact that he will go hungry again. But if you teach a man to fish, you are feeding him for a lifetime, because anytime he is hungry, he will go and fish to feed himself. But I guess that was before temporary support became a permanent job.

Today, teach the average kid how to fish, he will sell the boat and the entire fishing tackle. Best case, he will attempt to go abroad by any means. In the worst-case scenario, he will buy a smartphone, a pair of Jordans and divide up the rest between the proprietors of McCaesar's, Tottie’s, Wow, Luigi's, The Elite’s Club, Milly’s, Duplex, Taj India, Poco Loco, Aquarius Nightclub, The Butcher’s shop, etc.

When he is broke, instead of taking responsibility for his decisions and actions and grow from the experience, he will become so easily upset about everything, blaming causes that never were, and for choices he freely made. Any close relation he believes can be a source of bailout will be considered an enemy unless able. Look, I know these things because I have been there.

Idiot not ingrate....

None can be needlessly retributive, calculatedly forgetful, and blatantly disregardful than a onetime dependant who thinks he is now so comfortable that he no longer needs anyone.

But isn't it said that even a blind squirrel can find a nut once in a while? Exactly! Now, if a squirrel takes his piece of nut for a guaranteed supply and starts to be cheeky towards those who once provided for him, wouldn't they be far more careful the next time he needs them? Just what I thought.

Y'all call such people ingrates, but I call them idiots, because an idiot is to an unexpected advantage like a two-year-old is to a chocolate bar, or a new toy; no sense of consequence.