I need to say this; and I am not trying to be antisocial or
something, but just take a moment and think about it. I am sure y’all have seen
someone holding someone in the wrong, simply because one of them couldn’t grace
the other one's ceremony with his/her presence; I am saying “his/her”, because
I have seen men do it these days
If you ask me, I think it is so insensible to haul someone
over the coals, or stop talking to someone simply because you had an event and
that person couldn’t be in attendance; especially when you could more sensibly
take the substance of his/her excuse into consideration. At times the apologies
are legit.
Sometimes the timing and spontaneous nature of festivities
may not be to everyone’s advantage; or maybe an invitee was so broke that
he/she couldn’t afford the ‘semi-obligatory’ gifts or the requisite ‘Ashobi’;
or possibly your ceremonies have become so many and so ‘lucrative’ that
someone’s now gotten so pissed; anything’s possible.
**BUT to tell the truth, you cannot throw more than
‘twenty-ten’ ceremonies in one season and expect everyone to make your day on
all of them, ‘Lorlu Du Dem!’
You see, I know all these because where I live, every slight
event is cause for festivity; folks will distribute candy as token of
invitation to some toddler’s “Baffday” or ‘Kindergarten Graduation’; or they’ll
do a ‘Taki-Gorr’ and then an elaborate ‘Taka’; ‘Muur’, ’Jaybal’, ‘Endoo-Sait’,
‘Yorbu-Wolis’, ’Ndey-Ndikeh’, ‘Samba-Sohor’, ‘Tana-Mbirr’, ‘Nyambo’ then
‘Ngenteh’; ‘Nuyou Bayi Compin’, ‘Sayti Yayi Tuur’, ‘Ngomarr’, ‘Yekal-Gorro’,
‘Waache-Kamil’, ‘Premier-Njekeh’, ‘Ziar Demkati Mecca’, ‘Terangal-Oujajj’ and
the ‘Oujajj’ will be forced to give some ‘Yorbal’ that he/she didn’t cater for….
and so forth, and so on!
Now who has the stamina for all these in ONE season? LOOK!
Is not like you’re being rebellious or rude, if you have a genuine apology for
not attending someone’s event, just try and make up for it, and that is if you
can; but if the person is rigidly like: “Yow Bahulor, Lutah Nyowulo Suma
Porogaram Bi?” Tell him/her to leave you in peace; you can only go to a
“Porogaram” when you’re able to; nobody’s obsession should constitute an urgent
situation on you.
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