Mindset!

If you think people don’t like you, isn’t it natural that not everybody can get on with everyone every time? If someone talks to you today about business, should you take it that y’all are now sociably coming along? What if tomorrow he is not that friendly, will you call him a hater?

If you’re at a hangout, isn’t it normal for certain issues to arise that do not concern everyone? Should that mean that the ones concerned are being choosy and picky? If someone you always chat with, today doesn't react well, should you conclude on his arrogance? Couldn’t he not just be in the mood to chat? Couldn’t he be dealing with a personal trouble that you cannot be solution to?

If you had sent someone an SMS or called him, and he didn’t pick, call or text back at that instant, odds are he may have been so busy and perhaps forgot to call back; wouldn’t you be stupid to conclude that he didn’t want to talk to you?... if you attempt to stop someone in a speeding traffic for a lift and he didn’t/couldn’t stop; couldn’t it be that he didn’t see you or it was perhaps not convenient to stop? Why will you decide on being in his bad books?

If someone didn’t make it to your ‘Ngainteh’ or whatever programme, but said sorry for not making it because of some exigency, shouldn’t that suffice? Will you still tag him ‘Nyaka Ajor’? Couldn’t you have also measured your programme to coincide with his spare time; what if he also labels you ’Nyaka-Timing’?

SEE, times are too serious man, everyone is too busy with their own lives and struggles; it will be silly of me or anyone to quickly take every vague act by another person to mean lack of enthusiasm or hatred? It is foolishness to get overly downhearted because you think people are not keen on you; when in point of fact, people have a lot more important stuff to take care of…